Do you have that one person in your life that is always bubbly? That one person who can make anyone laugh? Looking at some people, it is hard not to think that they are just born happy. But this is simply not true. Nope. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. But there are still things to avoid if you want to be happy.
We have talked a lot about building up your self-esteem. Deciding to start the self-improvement journey is a choice. A personal choice, not some genetic makeup that makes you naturally happy. No one needs to give you permission to start loving yourself. Just as you should not give someone permission to pull you down. It is all on you. And I am so excited you are with me on this journey.
In life, it’s hard to stay strong sometimes. Especially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battlefield of life, we should choose the right armor. We want to make sure we are always bulletproof.
During the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing bulletproof armor ideally means a change in favor of ‘self-care’. The kind of change which comes from within. Voluntarily. Wearing your armor daily changes 3 things in your life.
- Your attitude
- Your behavior
- And your outlook on life
Learning to put on your armor every day will make it easier and easier to choose self-care first. We need to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. So how do you start putting on our armor?
We start by being positive. Be content and happy with what you have. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build up your armor. But there are many things in life that will fight against you. I want to make sure you see the attack coming.
5 Toxins to Avoid If You Want to Be Happy
First off, Imagine yourself getting ready for battle each day. At any moment, anything and anyone can throw a dagger straight at your heart. These daggers will destroy your self-esteem. They will pull you down. Sometimes you won’t even see it happening. We have to remember to watch out for these toxic daggers in life. Don’t let them get the best of you. So how do we spot these daggers before they strike?
Dagger #1 — Negative Work Environment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory. This means that everyone is fighting to get ahead. Everyone is after the same promotion. Each one who “feeds” into this theory becomes non-appreciative. No one will appreciate your work. No matter how many hours you put in, how many missed dinners with your family. Everyone is only worried about themselves. The only mission is to “survive”. Stay out of all of this. It is extremely toxic to everyone involved. A little competition is okay, as long as it is healthy. You do not want to stab a co-workers’ armor.
Dagger #2 — Other People’s Behavior
There are so many situations that can surround you. Do not get sucked into any of the negativity that goes on. Watch out for daggers from:
All of these kinds of behavior can wear a hole in your self-improvement armor. They pose bad vibes for your self-esteem. And will pull you down with them.
Dagger #3 — Changing Environment
You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. You predators will spot you right off the bat. Changes challenge our outlook on our surroundings. They test our flexibility, adaptability and alter the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for a while. But remember it is all just temporary. Change may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve ourselves. The only constant in life is change. Change is inevitable. We must learn to let this dagger bounce off our armor without puncturing it.
Dagger #4 — Past Experience
We all have little daggers from the past that might rear their little heads. It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Learn to treat each failure and mistake as a lesson. Find the silver lining of these daggers.
Dagger #5 — Negative World View
One of the biggest daggers that will sneak up on you is a negative outlook. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the bad things of the world. Choose to look for the light in all dark places. In building your armor, you have to make the best out of all situations.
Do you have toxic daggers in your life right now? Did you see them coming? What is that is holding you back from learning to love your journey to self-improvement? Leave a comment below.